Sunday, October 3, 2010

Answering Hard Questions

It seems like every time I turn around my kids are asking me really hard life questions that I don't have answers for. I wish I could turn back the hands of time and go back to where they were all little and the only questions they asked were "Are we there yet?" and "Is it time for dinner yet?" Now I get deep questions that I don't always have the answers to and I have learned that it's perfectly ok to tell your kids that you don't know the answer. I think sometimes kids look at parents like they are superhumans who know everything but I think it's good for kids to see us be honest sometimes when we admit that we don't have all of the answers.

Emma is our only girl. She is 7 now and is in the 2nd grade this year. She is spoiled rotten..... it took us until she was in kindergarten to convince her that she was not a real princess. *lol* But hey, that's what happens when you are the only girl, right?! In addition to being beautiful, she is so smart. She taught herself to read at 4 and now at age 7 she reads and spells several grade levels higher than most of her peers. She loves to learn and loves having that upper edge on everyone else. One thing I notice about her that I love the most is that she isn't a follower. If kids are doing something she doesn't want to do, she would just assume go do something different all by herself. If you come along with her, great, and if not, no skin off her back. It's kind of funny. I hear other girls tell her, "If you don't do what I want to, I'm not going to be your friend anymore" and I heard her reply once, "Ok, then I guess we aren't friends." *lol* She just marches to the beat of her own drum and I love her for that. She also has a big heart. I have seen her cry her eyes out over sad movies and she shows so much sympathy towards others. I think she is one of those rare people who have the ability to empathize. Anybody can show sympathy but few can really truly empathize with people and I think she has that rare gift and it enables her to really be touched by people with problems.

Recently, she came home from school very very upset. I knew something was bothering her but she refused to speak about it. Finally when we were almost home, she had tears in her eyes and she starts talking to me and says "I saw a picture on my teachers desk today. She had the longest hair and she was so beautiful. And I just don't understand Mommy. What does God give beautiful people cancer?!" *Sigh* Another question I don't have an answer to. Because you see, in addtion to my friend Jennifer having cancer, Emma's teacher also has cancer. She is undergoing chemotherapy right now so she has lost her hair. Emma is very fond of her teacher and talks about her all of the time. She always compares her to Jennifer and tells me how beautiful both of them are, even though they have cancer. So I tell her that I don't know why God gives beautiful cancer. I tell her that anybody can get cancer. Cancer doesn't care who you are or what you look like. It just so happens that 2 of the people we know with cancer right now are both beautiful. And she looks at me and says, "Do you know what I think?" "What baby girl?" I ask. "I think that God gives beautiful people cancer just in case he decides that he isn't going to make them better and wants to bring them to Heaven with him to make them angels. God only makes the most beautiful people angels, you know?!" And I told her I think that's a wonderful answer.

You know, I expected to be the one doing all of the teaching when I had children. Little did I know that I would be the one learning and they would be doing the teaching. You can learn a lot from a 7 year old if you just take the time to listen.  I'm glad I listen.

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