Wednesday, January 5, 2011

Life Happens!

I did not mean to fall completely off of the radar over the Holidays. I have an inbox FULL (Seriously, 1,800 messages as of this morning) with so many of you asking me where I disappeared to and showing concern. First of all, I am here! Alive and well. And I feel so blessed to have so many great followers who actually care enough about me to be concerned when I momentarily vanish off of the face of the blogosphere. *lol*

I am not sure where to start or even where I am going with this post but what I can and will tell you is that I am a real person, just like everyone else. I don't live a perfect life with a perfect family in a perfect house. I live a normal life just like you do and sometimes life happens to me too, mostly when I am not expecting it of course!

I met my husband when we were both 18. I fell completely, head over heels in love with him from the very first time I laid eyes on him. He would smile at me and his dimples would show and his eyes would light up and I was hooked.



 We only dated maybe 6 months before we got engaged and by the same time the next year, on 10-28-00 we were married. Gosh we were so young! Looking back now I wonder why we rushed but I also just remember how much in love I was with him. Nobody else mattered anymore, it was only me and Nick!


By our 1st anniversary, I was pregnant with Andrew. He was born in March of 2002 and just 3 months after he was born, I found out I was pregnant with Emma. So we had 2 babies running around before we knew it. But it was ok because we had each other. We went through some really tough times but there was never a doubt in my mind that we would make it through because that's just what you do when you love someone!


Drew and Emma were best friends! I just loved watching them play together and didn't regret having them so close together for one minute! (Although I can say, it definitely was NOT planned that way! lol)



A couple years went by and wouldn't you know it, Joshua came along! We had managed to have 3 children in a matter of 4.5  years! That could take a toll on anybody but honestly, we were so happy! We had problems but I just loved our little family so much!



Between Joshua being born and nearly 5 years later Aiden being born, a lot of life changes happened. We lost a baby in the 2nd trimester, I lost my job, went back to college, got my Bachelor's Degree....just a lot of things that could have broken us. But they didn't. We managed to get through every hard time and even though it wasn't always ideal, we always made it through.

Nearly 11 months ago, Aiden was born. I never thought after having 3 children already that I could love someone as much as I do him. He is just the most precious, sweet little guy ever.  He has totally changed our lives. His big brothers and sister just adore him and I can't tell you how many nights we just sit and laugh over him. He definitely gets a lot of attention!!




Now nearly 11 months later, he is walking, talking and yep! He is even taking big boy showers. *lol*  Oh I couldn't resist this picture. :D



But in all seriousness, something happened this year after Aiden was born. Nick and I forgot about each other. Everything became about the baby and about the kids and we got so busy that we forgot about us. And without even realizing it, we woke up one day and our relationship was gone. Everything had fallen apart. Nothing was the same. We didn't even know each other anymore. And I don't know how that happened. I guess because a relationship is like a plant. If you don't water it and give it the necessities to grow and thrive, it eventually withers and dies. And that's what happened to Nick and I. We realized just right before Christmas that something was missing and that we didn't know if we could find it again, if the pieces could be put back together.

So I decided not to make any resolutions for 2011 and instead have decided that it is going to be a year of restoration. A year to restore things like my marriage that nearly fell apart because we neglected to spend time together and remember that we need each other too, just like the kids need us. We have watched so many of our friends and families marriages fall apart and never thought it would happen to us and then with a blink of an eye, we were in that same position. And I don't want that to ever happen again. It might take days, weeks, months...it might take the whole year, heck I don't know. But I won't give up without a fight.

So you see. We are real people. With real problems. Just like the rest of the world.

My inbox is a nightmare. But I am slowly getting through it. If you have sent me a message in the past week or 2, I will get to you this week, I promise! Thanks for hanging with me and for your understanding. You all are the best fans and followers ever!











12 comments:

  1. Praying for your marriage, Sarah. That is the single most important relationship we can have and maintain outside of our relationship with God. I pray that you are able to restore your marriage back to and beyond what it ever was. May this be a time where you can lay a foundation that can never be broken again. Thank you for being so honest and open to us, your readers. This is a huge step towards the healing process. Take care and most of all focus on you and your husband.

    Amy

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  2. Sarah~
    I am so sorry to hear things are stressful right now; life and marriage are so tricky and take so much work. I am kind of going through something very similar right now so I feel for you! {hugs} One or 2 of those emails are from me; please no worries about what they are about it is taken care of. Anyways, just wanted to give you a big hug and say take one day at a time {hugs}

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  3. aww hope u guys work everything out.. hang in there :)

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  4. Oh boy. I'm with ya. My husband and I have sort of fallen apart. We're trying to pick back up the pieces. We have different weekends to save on daycare costs. He watches 4 boys on his weekend in the middle of the week. We both work full time. He has this passion of working on sculpture, which is great, but it does take away from us. Hang in there, as I will too.

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  5. Thank you so much for sharing such a personal story with all of us :) Its hard for most people to talk about this kind of stuff, and it must have been tougher to explain it so publicly... But I was so glad to read it, and to read your commitment to rebuilding your relationship. Not every relationship can be saved, and many people walk away too quickly when they reach the place that you guys are at now. But after such a great history together, and so many memories, I'm sure you guys have what it takes to be happy together again.

    You brought tears to my eyes reading this post, and I wish you the very best of luck in the new year :)

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  6. I just wanted to let you know that I'm sending you lots of hugs from SC. <3

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  7. Thanks for sharing the pics and your story and even your troubles. It is a blessing that you all realized what was going on before it was too late. I know it might be hard, but with such a rich foundation, if both of you give it your all, you should make it through this. I will share something from my parents who met at 13 and married at 16 and are still together 38 years and 3 kids later. My mom has said that there were entire years she didn't enjoy her marriage or even like my dad, much, but she knew marriage was like everything in life and would have lows. I will pray that you all have the strength and wisdom to get through this.

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  8. Thanks for being so honest. Praying for wisdom, strength, and restoration for you & Nick!

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  9. Wow! I loved this post so much--not for the situation you are in, but for your candor in sharing it and your determination not to give up.
    My husband and I came to a similar realization recently. He's working on his PhD and working part time and we have 2 young kids. We hardly ever saw each other and when we did see each other we only talked about school and the kids. We got our wake-up call when we were watching the movie Date Night (interestingly :) and we realized we were that couple. We've since committed to working more on our marriage.
    Even the best of couples go through tough times during their marriages. Keep working at it and you'll make it through.

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  10. Your honesty is admirable. I hope and pray that your efforts pay off in cartloads. Good luck and take things one step at a time! :)

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  11. Sarah and Nick..you have so much to be grateful for and have accomplished.Marriage works because you both want it and nurture it..I know that it can be tough and lonely...I am sending ya'll lots of love and hope you'll keep the faith.I think you can do this..
    Much Love
    Corinne

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  12. Wow, I can totally relate to your marriage issues. My husband and I just came through the hardest two years (in reality it was like 6 years, but I did not want to admit something was wrong) of our marriage of 13 years. But God has brought us through and though it is not easy we know we are meant to be together and our two girls (4 and 2.5) are precious gifts from God that we enjoy and delight in. Now, though we take time for one another and remind ourselves not to take one another for granted. I love your honesty! Thank you for sharing and being such an encouragement to us all!

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