Friday, January 7, 2011

Single Parents....You are my Heroes!!

My husband has worked out of town on and off ever since we have been married. While I have never been a fan, I realize that sometimes you do what you have to do when it comes to taking care of your family. He has been all over the United States in the 10 years we've been married. Florida, Alabama, Louisiana, Kansas, Virginia, etc. etc. He worked for a company that did disaster cleanup so it seemed like every time a hurricane or ice storm hit, he was packing up and taking off!  Luckily it was never for more than a couple of months but back when he used to do that, we only had 2 children and it wasn't so bad. The longest time he was away was for a few months in Florida and Alabama in 2004 and I found out I was pregnant with baby #3 the day he left which also happened to be my birthday!!  He got to miss my whole first trimester...lucky him! *lol*

I posted a few weeks back about Nick's little brother who has Juvenile Diabetes. His health has been getting worse and recently he has had some problems with his eyesight. This is a common problem that goes along with diabetes but Nathan's appeared to be pretty severe. We knew he was going to have some eye surgeries so right after Christmas, Nick left and went to my in-laws so he could help out and be there when Nate had surgery. He had a surgery this week on Wednesday and I think it has pretty much been downhill since then. I have talked to Nick several times as well as my Mother-in-Law and today they had to take Nathan back to the Cincinnati Eye Institute because the pain was so bad. My Mother-in-Law said that the pressure in his eyes was off the charts and that they don't think they can reverse what has happened so as of now, Nathan is blind in his left eye and has limited vision in his right eye. I am hoping and praying that they are wrong and that it can be fixed. I can't imagine being so young and having such a severe, permanent problem. My Dad is  blind in one eye as a result of a baseball injury when he was a child and I know the obstacles he has faced through the years because of that.

So for now, I remain a single parent. It's been almost 2 weeks and I have to tell you...with 4 children, it's a whole different ballgame than when he used to be gone out of town when we had only 2.  I am exhausted! I start my day around 6:45 a.m. getting everybody ready and off to school and then I spend the whole day chasing after the baby, grocery shopping, cleaning, cooking and sneaking in Facebook for a few minutes when I take a break now and again. *lol* I am pretty sure I need a break or something!  I'm not a real big fan of my hubby being gone and the kids are starting to not like it either!  When he gets home, I think a weekend trip away without any children is in order! So if you are a single parent.......you are definitely my hero! I don't know how you do it!!



2 comments:

  1. It is a exhausting adventure but it is something we do because we love our children and have to do what's best for them. I have been divorced now for 13 years and their dad plays limited if any part of their lives. Kids are older now !18 and 23) but I know how hard it is not to have the help from a partner. Hang in there it's all worth it in the end. Nice weekend alone the two of you seems long over due, Enjoy!!!!.........My thoughts and prayers go out to Nathan I hope all gets better for him.

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  2. You want to know how I survive- hiding in the bathroom with a book when I can't take anymore. When I had a baby I would take them in a little bouncy seat in with me and I tell the other kids I had to go to the bathroom and as long as I didn't smell smoke or see blood pouring under the door, I would read until I felt like I could handle things again.

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