Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Where Does Your Strength Come From?!

I had every intention of getting on my computer tonight and posting a couple of giveaways that I have been meaning to get posted but to be honest, I really just have a heavy heart tonight and just feel like venting. Do you, as a Mom, ever feel completely and totally overwhelmed? I try to not let things bother me and this is the way that I have always been. I have always been the "tough guy" so to speak, you know, the strong one. I have always been able to just let things roll off my back and not give them a second thought but I realized today that sometimes that isn't a possibility. The truth is, I try to be Super Mom. Super Wife. Super Citizen. I try to do everything right in my life. I try to make the best of every situation. I try to keep things together, and pretend like everything is o.k. but sometimes they just aren't o.k. Sometimes I can't be Super Mom. There aren't enough hours in the day for me to do everything that needs to be done. I can't give all 4 of my kids equal amounts of attention and affection, no matter how hard I try. And it seems like no matter what I do, it's just never good enough. And sometimes, just sometimes I wish that I didn't feel like the weight of the world is on my shoulders. 

I was browsing through some of my favorite blogs today and blog after blog after blog I just kept seeing what appeared to be perfect family after perfect family.  I was reminded one day of when one of my readers messaged me and told me how jealous she was of me because I had the perfect family. And the truth is, my family is not perfect. We are far from perfect. We have the same problems that every other family potentially faces.  We have spoiled rotten kids who can be complete brats. My house often looks like a tornado has gone through it, no matter how many hours I spend cleaning. I have panic attacks. My husband and I don't always get along and we rarely agree. Sometimes I just want to hide away because I don't know what to do next.  Sometimes I look at my life and feel like I have done nothing that I had planned to do. It's hard to be a Mom. I would never let anybody downgrade my job as a Mother.  It is one of the most terrifying yet rewarding jobs I will ever have.  Sometimes I just don't know where the strength is going to come from to get through the next day but somehow it always comes. And we always find a way. And life continues on. 

Where does your strength come from when you find yourself overwhelmed? Do you ever find yourself in situations that look so impossible yet you still find a way to muddle through and make it work?  


  1. I could have wrote most of this post myself! I feel overwhelmed with just 1 child sometimes, but I also work at home so that requires my time too. When I am feeling overwhelmed, I unplug. I step back from it all, get away from the computer, get my husband to take the kiddo to the park, and I just relax and chill out by myself. Then, when I am ready to face the situation again, I try to chisel away at it, one small piece at a time until it's done.

    It's easy to look at blogs and see a "perfect family." I have learned from online friendships, however, that many people only put the positive aspects of their lives on the internet. If you really got to know most bloggers, you would see how imperfect their lives really are. It's so easy to hide those imperfections on the other side of the computer though.

  2. My strength comes from my husband. He is really someone that I can depend on.

  3. I can totally relate Sarah! Just take one day at a time, some are harder than others. It sound like you were referring to my family....we're a disaster quite often!

  4. Motherhood is hard and I only have one. I'm a single mom who works full time. I get my strength from seeing my mom who brought up 12 kids (including myself) I say if she did it so can I. I also take time for myself even if it's just one hour. I take a long walk to the park put my favorite country of spanish pop on and walk away. I also get a facial that hour where it's soooo quiet is the best plus it does wonders for my skin. No mom is ever perfect neither is a marriage.....I was told by my co-worker that no marriage was perfect and that all marriages have arguments from time to time and that if someone told me that they never argue that they where lying because sometimes arguments start over little things. I'm pretty sure your a great mom and a great wife & don't ever think otherwise.

  5. I can completely relate, especially with the "no matter what I do, it's just not good enough."

    I get frustrated too much and I get tired a lot. I feel outnumbered and overwhelmed. You're definitely not alone, but most of us don't blog about our failures or shortcomings enough. Some days I'm just glad when it's bedtime. Then I feel bad for wishing the day away. It's hard to be a mom -the hardest job I've ever had. I don't care what anyone else says. It's not hard to love your kids...but it's hard to do everything else that comes along with it....it's hard to keep a clean house, it's hard to raise grateful kids, it's hard to be a great wife. Anyway, I'm just rambling, but I completely understand...hang in there. You're doing a great job.

  6. i get overwhelmed too but my strength comes from the Lord and knowing that what I am doing now is making a difference in my little boy's life - molding and shaping his future. i love him so much!


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